It’s here. It’s big. And it’s spreading fast.
It might sound like I’m describing some disease or some cult. Well, I’m not talking about either. I’m warning you. If you’re vulnerable to sexually explicit content, please redirect from this page.
Since the decriminalization of homosexuality in India in 2009, things have been stirred up. I don’t know if it’s for the right or wrong, but yes, it’s raising a lot of hype. We’ve read about LGBT [Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender], and even had hard laughs with romantic comedies with a mild flavor of gayishness in Dostana and Goa.
Ok, why am I saying all this to you? Today I read an article in THE HINDU [‘Flight of the Rainbow coalition’ in NXG dated 23/6/2011]. Just like there is a ‘GAY PRIDE’ in the US of A, they’ve started a march here in Chennai. Guys of my age… I’m sure you’ve learnt about homosexuality from books and the media, and definitely not from your parents. So what if a child, say 5 years old takes a walk on the Marina beach road with his grandma, and looks at this march? Any curious mind will ask the question, “Paatti! Who are those people? And what are they doing? What does ‘gay’ mean??” This naturally forces the poor old lady to deliberately lie to the young one, purely because of the fact that, the child is not old enough, or more clearly the mind of the child is not mature enough to understand the concept. Of course she can always take a detour- tell the child that ‘gay’ means ‘happy’ [yes, it does!] and those people in the parade wanna be happy. The immediate response of the kid would be “Paatti! Paatti! Then, I wanna be gay too!!” Well, I’m sure many of us don’t wanna hear that from our grandchildren.
This is the thing that bugs me. There are a lot of people out there who have problems with their sexuality. While the rich ones make it to Singapore and US and become Rose, Lily and Lavender, while those who are not, go to Chennai Central and pester the passengers of trains and plunder. I mean, who gave you the right? I’ve seen a number of cases where the transgender asks [not politely, but rather in a forceful manner] for money, and the person, due to some inherent feeling of nervousness, gives some bucks [The trans does not accept any coins, the minimum ‘fee’ being 10 rupees]. But if he doesn’t, the trans will stroke the guy’s hair, caress the body and even his private parts [such movements can be seen only in Simbu's intro songs in tamil movies]. Only a person of steely resolve will still hold strong. Let me ask something to the trans people. Will you offer money to some straight guy if he does the same to you? You’d rather scream and shout and gather man power to beat the shit out of that guy!! So what gives you the right to do something onto others, what you’d never wanna have done to yourself? Curiously, the transgenders never seem to try that on women. That way, I’m happy that at least they are safe.
About the people who really have problems… Some have taken strides to become software engineers, TV show hosts and into other professions of good income and name. They even have organizations and self-help groups. There are laws to protect and safeguard their rights as humans [on the contrary, there are no laws to protect straight people]. Then why do they keep on troubling innocent straight civilians? Is it our fault to be straight? It is those people who have been reasons for their own doom. Not anybody else. But the only thing that makes me feel sorry for them is the portrayal of such people in movies. But again, after what I’ve seen I really can’t make a statement.
I feel that it’s ok if people do corrective surgery to get rid of sexual disorders. I mean, it’s just like any other surgery, it’s just that it’ll make the person fit for something that he was not. But sex-change surgeries, I feel, are leading people in a wrong direction. Genoplasty, as scientists say, can turn a male into a female, and vice versa. This, I hate for 2 reasons
- Changing a child’s sex in foetal stage or in infancy denies the child of its right to choose its sex
- Changing one’s sex in adult stage sounds a little meaningless to me, coz if you have a problem with that, you can always approach LGBT help centres. But in the long run, it is relatively ok, for the person undergoes the surgery with his complete consent, and nobody can deny one of one’s rights
The first case is prevalent in some parts of India, as they change the sex of the foetus from female to male with the help of some hormones. By simple mathematics, this is twice as harmful as female infanticide, and it can drastically affect the male-female ratio. In most hospitals of the country determination of the sex of the foetus is illegal. So, as long as there are no hard forged laws to put a check on such surgeries, the ratio problem will only loom larger.
And coming back to the GAY PRIDE. I sincerely do not understand what’s so proud about being gay. It’s just another state of being. I mean, I’m not proud to be straight, and definitely not proud to be male [Yeah, I’ve seen the slogans ‘Proud to be a woman’. As if they got anything else to be??!!]. But that’s what is destined for me. And at no point of time I’m gonna regret that, because I’ve got bigger problems to worry about and bigger things to do, than hold a signboard in my hand that says ‘Proud to be a man’ on Men’s’ day [Wait a minute! Do we really have something called Men’s day?? Oh well…] I strictly believe that one can very well be proud of something that he’s earned out of his own hard labour. Let me illustrate.
- One cannot be proud of his nationality or race. I mean you cannot be proud to be an Indian, or a Tamil, or a Bengali or a Punjabi. I can hear your ‘boo’s from here. But the thing is, what did YOU do to be born in India? You are one among 1.21 billion Indians, 72.1 million tamils etc. You can’t be proud of something like that. That doesn’t make sense. As Valluvar says- PIRAPPOKKUM ELLA UYIRKKUM SIRAPPOVVA SEITHOZHIL VETRUMAIYAAN.
- Now is where I wanna contradict Valluvar- SIRAPPOVVA SEITHOZHIL VETRUMAIYAN. Even that is not right, because every form of work is important to human life as we are all interdependent. A barber cannot be compared to a farmer, who cannot be compared to a software professional, in terms of the work they do. All forms of work are important and all kinds of people are important as long as they are sincere in the work they do. ENDHA THOZHIL SEIDHAL ENNA SEIYYUM THOZHIL DHEIVAM ENRU PATTUKKOTTAI PAATTIL SONNARE says Rajni. “Well, being an actor is no different from being a rugby player or a construction worker, save for the fact that my tools are the mechanisms that trigger human emotion” says actor Kirk Lazarus [Tropic Thunder].
- One cannot be proud to have a dad or a mom like the one he/she already does. Rather, one can say he’s lucky to have such parents. On the other hand, one can always be proud [instead of lucky] to have children like he/she does. That’s because people put sincere efforts to bring up their children, and it’s because of them, their children are the way they are.
- One cannot be proud of one’s gender
On the other hand
- One can be proud of one’s salary, even if it’s a single paisa, for he has earned it out of sweat
- One can be proud of one’s actions, even if it is the smallest help to your neighbor
- One can be proud of one’s feats, even if they don’t’ make it to the GUINESS BOOK OF WORLD RECORDS
The essence of my argument is that one can be proud of things that one invents/creates/earns, and not for anything else. My point? Be proud of what you did, not what you are. Of course, actions speak louder than words, don’t they?
So being gay is definitely not something one needs to be proud of.
The last thing that pisses me off is women’s rights. Even today I saw a number of women sitting on seats on the right side of the bus [where I live, the left is for women and the right, men], while all those who were standing were men. Same is the case with trains. The general coaches are jam-packed with people while the women’s coaches are free most of the time. This is what I call sexual discrimination. I remember someone saying ‘You can’t have the cake and eat it too’. Now women have their cakes and eat men’s too. A nasty blow to the guy who invented the proverb.
I do believe in sexual equality, of men, women and everyone in between. But these are a few things that make me turn my back at the idea. I hope some day the society will be free from all evils [starting from robbery and murder to sexual evils]. But until then I remain anti-LGBT, anti-feminist and anti-‘anything that hurts my feelings’, for I belong to the weak, uncared and unprivileged sex.